It’s been a while

It’s been a while

Woa… life’s been busy this last year and a bit! I promise to be back with my regular writings shortly but here is a quick update on life. We’ve packed up and moved to my home country Sweden, and there have been many changes, and indeed challenges. While hubby is busy working in London and commuting here, I’ve been raising our three kids on my own quite a bit. This combined with diabetes type 1, is no walk in the park. There is a fine balance at all times with managing the kids needs and my own, making sure I don’t collapse from a low bloodsugar. I have to keep reminding myself to put myself first which is not always easy, as the needs of kids are indeed sometimes urgent. I really admire all the other type 1 parents out there who make it work. It truly is an invisible disease, and all often looks fine to everyone else on the outside, but it really is another high maintenance baby to care for. I am definitely no supermom, I put my hands up to that for sure, although my sweet three beg to differ sometimes, bless them sweet souls. To top the pressure this last week during multiple birthday preparations, a balloon exploded in my eye (I know, what the…. what?!) causing an inflammation which had me nearly over my limit…. we all have one, limit I mean, and two eyes hopefully. My mantra for the last month has been “hang in there, hang in there, just hang in there dang it”! We’re allowed to feel that way sometimes.

Our last edition to the family, another daughter, joined us last May and is now crawling and pulling up to stand so it’s busy, busy, busy just about 24 hours a day except for maybe a few hours sleep here and there! She is such a funny, calm little sunshine so I can’t complain. She helps me to, well, you got it, hang in there.

We’re all loving the outdoors and the massive snowfalls we’ve had this winter. We’re not missing London so much yet. It just didn’t feel right for our family and got difficult to manage with our situation – I can’t say just how relieved I am to be living among the trees and with quiet around again. I really feel like I’ve gotten my life back! That’s a topic in itself…. how does one, despite seemingly impossible obstacles (normally tangled with or the root cause being fear) steer life in the direction that seems right? Which path does one choose? What is, in fact, or ever, “right”? Sometimes it’s even hard to dig deep to see what one craves and strives for in life, to know oneself… but remember, we can all get there. I will write more about this, and especially in relation to ones career.

I will leave with a quote from psychologist Carl Rogers to keep the motivation up to stay true to yourself “what you are is good enough if you would only be it openly”.

Middle daughter walking through the forest in the snow

My daughter following her path through the new and strange landscape.

Juggling motherhood, full-time work, a disease and my sanity

Juggling motherhood, full-time work, a disease and my sanity

Sometimes it feels like you’re walking on thin ice, like the two birds in the picture above. Diabetes is a ‘mind of its own’, unpredictable kind of disease at best times, and throw pregnancy into the equation and it is simply… well, go with the flow, try your best, stay sane and hopeful enough not to burn yourself out with all your efforts to keep those beautiful numbers that you and your growing baby needs to stay healthy. Figuring out diabetes without the pressures of family life and work was hard enough when I was still at school, but definitely manageable. Then I moved to a new country, started working, completed undergraduate and postgraduate degrees, got married, and now have two kids and another one on the way. ‘Phew! When did all that happen?’, I think sometimes, but feel incredibly proud and more confident in my ability to manage my life with type 1 diabetes than ever. But, yes there are big ‘buts’ sometimes, no pun intended! It can get incredibly taxing!

Let’s take a ‘it’s not so bad’, example… Yesterday, my 8-year old son and I was walking my 3-year old daughter home from her childminder, not a massive distance but up hill most of the way and about 45 minutes in total. My son decided it was a good time to tease his sister, like a brother does sometimes, and she got upset. They were both whining, and I decided to let them work it out between themselves to practice their negotiating and diplomacy skills. It started to rain, and I was out of breath and just generally 25 weeks pregnant uncomfortable…. Then on top of that I got low blood sugar. It came on very quickly and caused me not being able to focus, with my eyes as well as in my brain, very tired, shaky, and anxious, so I sat down (on the pavement), in the rain with two unhappy kids. I quickly downed my sugary drink, and beffore full recovery decided to resume the walk home, since both my daughter and I have a cold, and sitting out in the rain in the winter is not much fun with a runny nose and sore throat… Feeling wobbly both physically and emotionally, I noticed I had a big smile on my face… I felt happy that I was struggling, funny enough, as I felt so lucky to be spending ‘real-life’ time with my kids, and that I was managing well, yet again, a situation that was frustrating, difficult, and potentially dangerous for all of us. Being with my kids is such happy times for me, no matter what, since I started working full-time.

I have since tried to search the world-wide web out there for others in the same situation, other mothers and fathers who are juggling family, full-time work, pregnancy and on top of that, a 24/7 demanding disease like type 1 diabetes. Reading other people’s stories, and talking to people in similar situations can be immensely therapeutic, not realising you are alone with it (not that I want others to have the same struggles that I have, but I know that unfortunately there are others dealing with similar stuff out there…  I really emphasise with you!), and feeling that one is not weird for feeling frustrated, burnt-out, depressed, exhausted, and an emotional wreck from time to time.

The look of Type 1 Diabetes and Pregnancy – got my beloved and life dependent gear on, my insulin pump and my continuous glucose monitor.

 

What helps me manage? Good basics help, like good (i.e., healthy) food, exercise, and sleep, which can’t always be guaranteed with fluctuating blood sugars, a growing tummy, and two kids that sometimes need you at the most ‘inconvenient’ times of the day… It is so important to do my best to stay realistic about what I can and cannot control, and trying not to put unnecessary pressures on myself (I probably find this the most difficult!).  Spending time, just being in the present, with my kids, and having good quality alone time with my husband – there is nothing like a partner, a friend or family member understanding and listening to you, some one who can pat you on the back. Regular alone time and down time, doing the things I love, like writing, crafts, spending time outdoors, and watching a good film from time to time. Acceptance, honesty, support and self-care are the cornerstones of good type 1 diabetes management for me.

Sadly, I could not find a single story out there – so where are you full-time working, pregnant moms or dads with type 1 diabetes? Would love to hear your stories and if/how you’re managing to stay sane. In my next blog post I will be writing a survival list for managing motherhood, work, pregnancy and type 1 diabetes.

 

Do your child a favour and put your spouse/partner first

Do your child a favour and put your spouse/partner first

In the popular literature and on social media more recently I have regularly come across the debate whether it is a good or bad idea to prioritise your spouse/partner before the children in relation to healthy child development. There seems to be a divide between the generations, with older generations arguing that the spouse comes first, that making the children the ‘centrepiece’ makes the child develop a sense of entitlement and prolonged dependency. The younger generations who are having their children now are arguing the opposite, and often make statements such as ‘it is our nature to care for our children first’, the idea that because children are helpless and need you more, the other adult in the equation can take care of him/herself. However, most experts argue that the former is healthier for a child’s emotional and social development, and below I will discuss some reasons why this is.

 

Intuitively when we have a baby our natural instinct and overwhelming feeling is to physically and emotionally focus most, if not all, of our resources on that child. For the first few months that makes sense from an evolutionary point of view, it is a very natural and healthy protective instinct towards a helpless, and physically very vulnerable child. It is also very important for our getting to know each other, and for forming that strong emotional bond, especially between the mother and child.

As our child grows, however, and starts to develop a need for individuality (my 2 year old is frequently yelling ‘mine!’ these days, and ‘go away!’) it is important that we guide them throughout this rather scary and newly found need to ‘break away’, to practice their own autonomy, personal ambitions and interests
It is a delicate balance between loving attention and distance, by role-modelling healthy and supportive relationship behaviours while nurturing their budding independence.

The development of the emotional and supportive bond through our responding to their ever-changing emotional, physical and social needs, together with giving them freedom to explore their own options and temperament, is what forms the secure attachment between a parent and the child. I argue that it is this learning which takes place during the interplay between two or more people (originally between parent and child, but also through other social relationships that the child forms, e.g., with siblings, primary caregivers, grandparent’s etc.) that will promote healthy self-esteem, nurture their character and ability to set healthy boundaries, and ultimately encourage confidence and self-sufficient behaviours, all crucial for healthy emotional development. The active role-modelling of ‘give and take’, the dyadic nature of love and support between two parents, as well as between parent and child, encourages psychosocial well-being, rather than an over-focus via a unidirectional model that ‘the child’s happiness comes first’, which very likely create unrealistic expectations and indirect pressure on the child to fulfil their parent’s needs and expectations as the centrepiece in the parent’s life.

Recent scientific research by psychologists Dr Bahrami, Drs Givertz and Segrin, and others, have shown that the overinvolved parenting style encourages dependency in the child often resulting in entitlement issues whereby an adult child continues to be emotionally and financially dependent on his/her parents. Furthermore, several recent studies have demonstrated that children develop the best sense of emotional security, and healthy emotion regulation, e.g., a healthy self-soothing ability, in families where parents prioritise their relationship in terms of frequent display of affection and togetherness, open and non-judgemental communication style, and a strong independent marital relationship of their own on the side of their relationship as parent’s.

Furthermore, there are risks to their healthy emotional and social development in undermining the importance of other social and supportive primary relationships that the child is forming, which in turn will form them.

When parents either consciously or unconsciously put the love for the child above the love for the spouse/partner, it may create a physical or percieved split between the parents, which may foster feelings of resentment, isolation, and neglect. Indeed, being overinvolved emotionally with the child is often a sign of a parent trying to mend something gone missing in their own lives, feelings that will be transferred onto the child. By having needs unfulfilled, the other parent starts looking elsewhere than in their partner for these to be met, sometimes turning to the child/children for comfort, which will result in the child experiencing confusion, insecurity and acting out. If you do not put your relationship to your spouse/partner first, marriage/parenting can come across to the child as something ‘bad’, difficult to handle and even scary. David Code, psychologist and therapist, mention several cases that show that having an over-indulged parent makes the child three times more likely to suffer from anxiety and depression during childhood, and later also as adults.

The take-away message here after this brief introduction, I believe, is the importance to love the child not just directly, but indirectly by nurturing and demonstrating love, affection, respect and reciprocity in your relationship with your spouse/partner. This is the best thing you can do for your child in order to support them in becoming emotionally strong and healthy human beings. We should seek to be the best role-models for our children, not their best friends. Your best friend is your spouse/partner. I believe that the partnership between parents is the foundation of the family, and if you are lucky to have a spouse/partner that you love and treasure, let yourself be the solid ground where your children develop the confidence to stand on their own two feet, to explore their surroundings, and from where they later hopefully will have the will and courage to take off and fly.

Contradictions

I have been working on a short story about a father and son who have become estranged. Time has passed, several years have gone by and the father is at the end of his life. The son has ironically spent his entire life and fortune working for the less fortunate in society. It’s about grappling with old grudges, pride and buried, hidden suffering from the inability to reconnect.  It’s about stagnation, fear and ultimately regret. I will share my opening lines with you that came out in a way as a short poem; summarising the story rather lightly and semi-playful with rhymes.

The Activist

You live so much for the other, 
but where are you?
Your ideals projected towards another.
If I am not with you,
I am nothing but a “fou”.

For a cause so brightly burning,
late at night you stay up turning.
Attention to all the things truly unjust,
as soon as morning comes, go out and fight you must!

On the other side of town, a wounded father is layed to dust.
No obituary from a long lost love, too proud to visit, and eaten up by misdirected disgust.

The rights of the stranger,  ever so ardently and nobly pursued.
Yet the emotions for and by your father,
so masterly subdued.

Exerting Control – The Nature of Disciplinary Action at Primary School and the link to Emotional Development

Exerting Control – The Nature of Disciplinary Action at Primary School and the link to Emotional Development

This article briefly explores the ways in which primary schools sometimes use punishment to induce ‘good behaviour’ in children. It is a very emotive topic, naturally, and rather divisive in that there appear to exist two quite different camps of opinion on the topic. I will consider the scientific knowledge from psychological theory and child development to discuss some of the main points of what is known about the effects of punishment.

‘It is much safer to be feared than loved… for they are entirely yours; they offer you their blood, their goods, their life, and their children’ (Machiavelli, 1903; 1935, p.90).

I often hear parents and school teachers desperately exclaim ‘why is my/that child so out of control?!’ And trust me, there is no judgement coming from here, because I know the feeling! But let’s face it, that someone is ‘out of control’ more or less means that they do not fit our own rules, or the unspoken rules existing in the culture, society or family we live in. Of course, there are some rules that are very important to keep in order for people to stay out of danger, and not to put anyone else in danger. I get that. I am talking about a different kind of control. A type of implicit conformity that is more socially, culturally, and personally imprinted than the rules in place for keeping people from breaking the law. I am not aiming to go all Cultural Anthropologist here, that would be beyond the scope of this article, but I do feel inclined to mention a few cultural differences in the ways adults stay ‘in control’ of the youngest in society. Having been brought up in Sweden, with socialist values, the school system is very different to here. At least it was back then when I attended primary school, I am not sure how it is now. Perhaps some of you people living in Sweden can inform me on this one? For someone like me, who didn’t start school until I was 7 years old, spent the first years at school mostly learning through play, with regular breaks outdoors, and lessons that focused more on ‘doing’ than sitting for long periods of time, listening and supposedly absorbing stuff, an English school can at times seem a little like a military camp to me. Of course there are things that are great about the English school system, but I believe some fundamental differences exist lending to my feeling of confinement with regards to the English school system. One of those differences I have observed concern the kind and use of punishment.

Here is how I see it… A military camp analogy is a very strong comparison of course, but in terms of the sense of authority and hierarchy in schools here, I can’t in this instance think of a more fitting one. Strict hierarchy and authority of teachers is not necessarily bad. Having clear rules and a set routine is very good for children, essential in fact for a strong sense of security in the child. But authority and hierarchy can be utilised in different ways. What can backfire is having 4-11 year olds conforming to adult rules, conveyed through adult language. How does that work? Does it work in fact? When I hear of a 5 year old being brought into the head teacher’s office to be told he or she is perhaps ‘naughty’, or even ‘engaging in disgusting and disgraceful behaviour’ because they did not stand in line well, or had trouble concentrating and felt like running around, thus disrupting the rest of the class with ‘the other well-behaved 5 year olds sitting quietly listening’ – that does not sit well with me. Now, what would child psychologists say that a child learns from such encounters with other significant adults in their life? These adults are role models whom the children spend most their time throughout the day learning from, and what they do will have an impact on not just their learning but their emotional wellbeing.

Well, I will tell you what I think. First of all, I believe there often exist unreasonable expectations of such young children to be sitting for too long listening. Second, there is no sign of understanding that a child’s world is different to the adults, their perspective and language is different and they need to be heard and spoken to in a way they can understand and learn from constructively. Third, and in my opinion most important, is the emotional aspect of such an encounter. That child might start to internalise those messages, that s/he is a ‘disgusting’, ‘naughty’ and ‘disgraceful’ person, perhaps they will develop a negative self-esteem, feel that their input does not matter, but most of all they might learn to be afraid, embarrassed and feel invalidated. Indeed, it is widely recognised in psychology that repeated encounters of this sort, although negative and aimed to work as a deterrent for ‘bad’ behaviours will have the exact opposite effect since repeated reprimands will work as reinforcement because the child is getting the adult attention that he or she naturally seeks. A punishment is an easy way out, but it does not address or challenge the behaviour they are trying to change. Positive regard is more time-consuming. When a child ‘misbehaves’ it is often because he/she does not have the necessarily skills, e.g., poor self-expression skills or difficulty in inhibiting impulses (indeed, very normal in the primary school age group), and need to be guided rather than punished. The child is not ‘naughty’, he/she is simply in need of extra adult guidance and support.

Even worse, should that child be sensitive or have a learning disability such as Autism or ADHD, who often find school more difficult and frustrating than other children, the effects could even be more dire. Maag (2001) mentions an incident where a child with learning disability frequently “forgot’” to bring his reading book to class, much to the teacher’s frustration. In this example the teacher punished the child by having the student write ‘I will not forget to bring my book’ 100 times. This fails to teach the child why they need to bring their book, but rather succeeding to induce embarrassment in the child over their learning disability. Although an extreme example, punishment of this kind are sadly not that rare. More important than labels and fear, is to help a child understand what s/he did that was not helpful for his own development in a way that a child can process and reflect on.

Personally, I believe that children that age can understand much more than we perhaps think, and I would say to a child being punished by labelling, isolation from peers or via punishment by action as in the example above, that that particular teacher is not very good at their job or at understanding children. And to tell them that unfortunately there are a lot of people out there like that in the world, and even more unfortunate is that he/she is the one making the rules at that place at the moment, and you will have to try to ‘stay out of trouble’ and ‘stick to their rules’ for now. I understand however that this is problematic as you risk undermining the teacher, and getting the child confused about the teacher’s authority and rules in general. But, what is worse? The possibility of confusing the child, but making them feel loved, heard, and validated than risking a blow to their self-esteem and healthy emotional development overall?

That is a very short article on a topic that can be explored and written on extensively, this just scratches the surface. I will come back to the topic and discuss the effects of positive rewards at school later, and I would love to hear from people their experiences of punishment, or indeed positive rewards at school, so please comment below. I will finish with a quote from my son a couple of years ago after a somewhat rough day at school ‘Mamma, when I grow up and become the boss over my teachers I will make the rule that when you stand in line you will have to wiggle and dance, that you are not allowed to sit down for more than 15 minutes, and that everyone will have to play outside at least every hour!’. I couldn’t agree more my son!

 

20 minute writing, 200 words challenge

20 minute writing, 200 words challenge

Oh listen clearly to the rumbles of lust,

Through my chest, to my spine, and into my bones.

Against you I want nothing else but myself to be thrust…

But instead into nightmare got crushed by cold stellar stones.

 

Hopeless, and helpless indeed, doubt took a hold of my innocent dream.

for as calm and serene as with you I had never been seen.

“But look again!”, death called,

For upon them

Things are not what they seem.

 

A distance imposed, by eyes and hands that were never more ardent and keen…

To keep us apart,

at the surface so perfectly achieved.

What grows underneath, a wave powered by sparks of love,

yet having unwillfully our story contrived.

 

My dearest and I, thoughts from ones that cannot be possessed.

By you, him or her… no matter how much you are willing to protest.

“For we are a unit of chemical essence that may not be dissolved!”.

Mysterious, unseen and impossible by any other soul or means to be evolved.

 

Unique and enduring, you desperately wish it had never breathed the breath of life.

Yet, our love effortlessly maturing, all attempts to drown in will end by the knife.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

On Reciprocity – attempts to forgive and to rekindle lost affinity

On Reciprocity – attempts to forgive and to rekindle lost affinity

I will share some thoughts and insights that I have learned as an academic and counsellor about the importance of reciprocity in relationships. The example below focuses on the loss of such mutuality and exchange in the parent – child dyad. Although there are almost endless reasons, extrinsic as well as intrinsic, explanations on why this has come about I will provide you with some thoughts to consider if you wish to begin the process of mending such a distance. Some things we do are more universal, and could help heal the relationship regardless of what caused the estrangement in the first place. This is true for all relationships, not only those of the parent – child. This post is for anyone who feel that they have lost an important relationship, and was left puzzled and feeling helpless about what really happened that created such a distance.

I have on a few occasions recently come across a quote on social media, mostly shared by late teenagers and young adults, that reads ‘a daughter/son should not have to beg for a relationship with her/his mom or dad’. At first one might accept what is says, feel for the implied victim in the situation and probe no further. Allowing yourself to think some more about it however, the quote is problematic, even unhealthy, and I will give you my reasons for suggesting so.

First of all, I do understand why we would instantly empathise with the adult child in this quote. It’s only natural. Imagining a child, albeit now an adult, to be estranged from their parent is painful. And as the quote suggests, even more so by the hinted possibility that the parent is the culprit for this distance, causing this seemingly utterly desperate tension inside the child that they would need to ‘beg’ for a relationship. That idea is an agonising one for most of us, whether you are imagining yourself as the child or the parent in that situation. But it is in how the pain inside this child is worded where the heart of the issue lies.

Let’s explore the word and notion of what is meant by a ‘relationship’. The English dictionary provides more than one definition. First and foremost, a relationship denotes kinship between people, through blood or marriage. The second definition mentions the emotional connection between two people, that a relationship is one of alliance and affinity. The final definition refers to romantic and/or sexual involvement or affairs.

How about the word ‘beg’ used in the quote? Knowing that the relationship exist already, in terms of kinship, the sentence starts to look like something of an oxymoron to me. It is not possible to beg for a relationship when it comes to the child – parent union, there just is one, at least by blood. This is where it gets really tough… Harbouring the desperate feeling that ‘one must not have to beg for a relationship with their parent’ therefore appears to be born out of the very notion that, indeed, the relationship itself is not what is missing. This makes the lack of a poor, or non-existing, affinity ever more painful. By dismissing the existence of a relationship altogether, the lack of what you want out of the relationship, the love, acceptance, and union, the very essence of a healthy, warm and reciprocal relationship, may seem a little easier to handle. The internal message becomes ‘he or she is responsible for that essence to exist, not me, I am the rejected one, the victim’. This also makes sense on another level, because the feelings of a child towards a parent has an element of dependence, in some cases entitlement. I have indeed come across many people that hold the view that the state of the relationship between the parent and adult child lies solely in the hands of the parent. If this is the case, then where does the notion of affinity in kinship come from, stated as being of such utter importance, come from? I believe that any healthy relationship depends on both units to be committed to the giving and receiving, at least when we are talking about relationships between two adults. That is what defines reciprocity. Affinity and affection suffer in no mild form without it in the short term, and die from the lack of it in the long run.

Even though it may be that the parent is falling short of showing affection and lack of investment in the relationship, the adult child is nevertheless removing themselves from the relationship by having such a divisive cognitive framework. That does not do the child, nor the parent, any justice. In terms of the adult child, it evokes a helpless and hopeless sense of being in a situation where you don’t have a choice with regards to the outcome of the situation, which I have many times witnessed to be such a very negative and unhealthy emotional response to have. Mostly for their own wellbeing. By stating such a quote in social media, the pain that is expressed over the loss of the quality of the relationship strongly suggests that the relationship has important meaning to them. Yet, they can’t find the strength to do anything about it, leading to self-victimisation and scapegoating, and the situation remains unresolved. They are not owning the situation nor their own true feelings about it, but merely inducing a sense of false temporary relief that ultimately harbours emotions of hopelessness and helplessness at the same time, maybe also leading to isolation. Perhaps, indeed, by ‘begging’ their parents themselves for the affinity to return to the already existing relationship would most of the time be the better option, and indeed the only option that would offer any kind of closure. And this is so, even in a circumstance where the child would in fact face rejection despite a genuine and emotional attempt to reconnect to their absent parent. By having accepted what they are lacking, and so painfully missing, and the ability to communicate this, can be remarkably cathartic and offer true positive changes to either the situation itself and/or the inner culmination of peace regarding the relationship.

So, there is it, the importance of reciprocity. When the child has grown and become an independent human being, there are two adults in the relationship, and both with responsibility towards the other to maintain a loving and functioning relationship. It may, not surprisingly, also be the case that the victimization and blaming is found to have been exactly what drove the parent away, and one does need to, albeit extremely difficult, be prepared for this possibility. Instead of labelling oneself the victim, and allowing anger to fester towards the other as the culprit whether it is true or not, it is more constructive to look honestly at the emotions that are longed for but sadly lacking. To accept and try to possibly find the ability, or perhaps courage, to explore, examine and communicate these to the parent in an open way, while allowing a space for both to be heard. For we know that it is not the relationship that has gone astray, it exist already through kinship, but something even more important is missing, the affinity. The affinity and union that can only grow out of the mutual sharing of affection, the only true reciprocity.

So ‘what do I do?’ some of you may be thinking now. We can all start by examining the view, or views, we have of ourselves, and which of these that we choose to communicate to others. What story are you telling others, and ultimately yourself? Are you the victim? In what way does it help you to communicate to others that you are the victim, or have been the victim, of rejection? What do you believe are the reasons for estrangement with someone significant? Does the empathy you receive from other mend you? Do they add to your feeling of self-worth? We need to do this, sometimes very difficult, self-reflection for our own self-awareness and growth. Not so much for the sake of others, but rather for the sake of ourselves, for us to begin our own mending, without relying on others. Only then, I believe, can we make real changes to our relationships that matter to us.

 

Welcome!

Welcome!

Hello, and welcome to my blog. I am a writer and an aspiring academic living in London. I am a writer because I write, always have, and an aspiring academic because I am completing my postgraduate studies in Psychology. I write both fiction and non-fiction, anything from comments, articles, scientific reports to short stories, a poem here and there, and I am working on my first novel. I have written the final chapter first, which is how my mind works. I write in my head constantly, make the conclusions, and then start exploring, discovering and building on the path leading up to them. This is the part of writing I love the most, the endless discoveries along the way. The process may finally alter the ending, but I always have clear ideas where I want to take something, and what I want to have said. My writing mainly concerns conceptualizing the complexity of human relationships, those of the dyadic kind, and those we have with ourselves, with nature, things, and spirituality. I know what you’re thinking, ‘but that concerns just about everything doesn’t it’?! As far as our experience, yes, I guess it does! I have always been interested in studying people, behaviour and experience, of the group and the individual. My background is in Cultural Anthropology, Psychology, Neuroscience, Group and Relationship Counselling, and I am currently studying Industrial/Organizational Psychology, i.e., human behaviour at work. So, from the behaviour of neurons, and all the rest that makes up our amazing central nervous system, to individuals, to how people act in small groups to entire cultures, I am fascinated by it all. What is most intriguing and wonderful, at the same time frustrating, is how little we actually know. It leaves plenty room for learning and speculating, which is what my blog is all about. Yes, I am one of those annoying persons that constantly ponder over our existence! My hope is that you will all want to ponder with me, by sharing your own opinions and experiences. Thanks for stopping by, and I hope to hear from all of you soon. Let’s begin!

Sara

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